Cast Spotlight: Heather Thomas Morton

by Anna Hartman on April 7, 2017

Heather Thomas Morton gets it. She’s an old soul in a young body, and sees the world with a keen writer’s eye. Her perspectives of life, motherhood, and daughterhood are beautifully told and place an emphasis on the small often overlooked details that help to define a relationship. I am excited to welcome her back to the LTYM stage.

Heather

What is your Name?
Heather Thomas Morton

Where do you write, blog, are published?
I have a blog that I play around with from time to time on my own – If I Should Die Before You Grow, These are the Things You Should Know.

I also have 2 novels published under a pseudonym.

How did you discover LTYM?
I’m not sure where I first heard about Listen to your Mother, but I found Listen to Your Mother-Charleston when a friend of a friend posted about her experience on Facebook. Parenting and telling the truth about parenting is something I feel super strongly about, and I had recently lost my own mother, so I knew this was something I had to be a part of.

What is the craziest thing you remember saying to your children?
Before I had boys I just had no idea how fascinated they were with their own little parts. I’m not sure how many times they’ve gotten out of the tub and I’ve had to say, “It’s still there. It’s yours for life, no one’s going to take it away.”

When did you first start thinking about your parents as an individual people and not just “mom and dad”? 
I think I first started seeing my parents as people in high-school, but definitely in college when I saw how differently I had been raised from others around me, and I was suddenly so thankful that my parents had been really tough on me. Also, just going off to college which was something my mother never had the opportunity to do, and realizing I wouldn’t haven’t been able to do it if not for her sacrifices. Just putting myself in her shoes and seeing how selfless she had been was eye opening.

What is your first/last/only memory of your mother?
My first actual memory of my mother I was probably 3. We were our living room and she was sitting on the edge of the couch with me standing between her knees, and she was teaching me how to give eskimo kisses. Everytime I do the same with my own minis, I remember that.

My last memory was October 17, 2013. I had dinner with my parents and then put my children in the car with her. I bent down and gave her a hug and told her I loved her; I had no idea it would be the last.

What do you wish most for your children?
Of course I want my minis to grow up to be happy, healthy, fully-functioning, productive members of society. But what I would really like is for them to look back on their childhood and want to replicate that for their own children. I want them to have had fun, and I want them to have felt loved and empowered so much that it’s the dream they have for their own little people.

What does motherhood mean to you?
There was a time when I thought being a mother was the lamest gig out there. I watched my own mom,and I just didn’t get how planning your life around other people (people who are oftentimes ungrateful) could be fulfilling. Thankfully, I thought I’d give a try anyway though. Being a mother is the coolest job I’ve ever had. Hello! I made people!! Like they didn’t exist until I made them- how cool is that? But as cool as it is, it’s also the most important thing I will ever do with my life. I indeed did create these little people, these lives and now I am responsible for making them awesome. I thought being a mother would make me less somehow, but it has made me more; it has made me a better woman and a better person. Even on days I don’t want to be watched, their little eyes are watching and they are learning how to be their own people through what I do. There can be a lot of pressure in that, but it also comes with the greatest rewards.

 

Join Us April 29 at Circular Congregational Church at 5 or 7:30 to hear Heather’s essay “Motherless on Mother’s Day.” Click here for tickets.

Marie McDow April 8, 2017 at 11:47 am

I had the good fortune of having Heather in my Language Arts class when she was in middle school. Later, I happened to be keeping the church nursery the first time she and Andy brought their precious twins to church. I continue to experience their family as it grows! This Is exciting to hear that Heather is sharing her thoughts on family and motherhood with others!

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